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Nice Girl Test

Take The Test!

How nice are you? Circle the number that best describes in general how you think, feel, or act:

1 = Rarely/Never          2 = Sometimes          3 = Often          4 = Always


___  1.  I jump in and take care of family members when others could but don't or won't.

___  2.  I feel guilty whenever I say no to family members or disappoint them.

___  3.  I avoid burdening family members with my problems.

___  4.  I put family members' needs before mine at my own expense.

___  5.  I take care of friends more than they take care of me.

___  6.  I feel guilty and bad whenever I say no to friends or disappoint them.

___  7.  I am there for friends even when they're not there for me.

___  8.  I put friends' needs before mine at my own expense.

___  9.  Even though it stresses me out, I push myself to give my all at work.

___  10. I pick up co-workers'/bosses' slack and rarely get credit for it.

___  11. People at work take advantage of my good and giving nature.

___  12. I stress myself out by saying yes to people when I know I should say no.

___  13. I feel in the wrong and apologize automatically even when I'm not at fault.

___  14. I keep silent about what's on my mind rather than speak up.

___  15. I feel that whatever I do isn't enough with friends, family, at work, and at play.

___  16. If I don't do something perfectly, I feel like a failure.

___  17. I'm mortified when I make mistakes because of what people will think of me.

___  18. I have an overwhelming need for people to like/love/accept/approve of me.

___  19. I avoid making waves.

___  20. I go out of my way not to hurt people's feelings and end up being dishonest.


What's My Score?

Here's how to score this little test.  Give yourself 4 points for each Always answer, 3 for Often, 2 for Sometimes, and 1 for Rarely/Never, then add up your points. 

Now take a gander at the chart below and see where your score falls:

60-80 -- Go make yourself a crown of thorns.  You're killing yourself with kindness!

45-59 -- Find some thorns and register for a crown-making class by midnight.

25-44 -- Get yourself a "nice-ometer" and monitor yourself extremely carefully.

20-24 -- Being too nice is not your problem.